Long ago it must be
I have a photograph
Preserve your memories
They’re all that’s left you
~ Paul Simon
In January I had an email from a bride of mine… she said she was ready to make a wedding album. She said she wanted to make an appointment to come make some image choices. All of which is a very normal sort of email to come across my desk. Except, she got married in 1994. Waaay back in 1994. It was all film, of course, and she and her love got married in one of the darkest churches in town on a January afternoon so there were challenges to start with. She had given away or lost her proof books so the only thing left to work with were her negatives. Lucky for her, I had archived those negatives. It will be a challenge but we have started the process and I will talk about that another time. For now, there is a more important conversation to be had.
Here’s the thing… I’ve archived the negatives and the digital files of all the weddings covered in my career. That means if you got married with me or had a family portrait session, unless you have already gotten them from me, I still have your images.
This winter, one of the bigger projects in my home office has been to get rid of the extra layers of stuff that have accumulated over the years… we’ve had a major shredding festival and have emptied out cabinets and drawers to pare it all down to things we might still need. Pretty soon, that clearing will include client negatives and the large collection of CDs with early digital files on them. Film was from 1985 to 2004 and I always retained the negatives. In digital, my clients didn’t get files until about 2012 or so. It’s just time to free up some space… downsizing in place, I guess.
If your memories are important to you, I’d like to help you connect. Please feel free to get in touch because I can’t keep them forever.
I have a new email, by the way… email@example.com
Drop me a line. ;0)
Blogging is something you have to have the time to do if you want to do it well. Apparently, I ran out of time in June. ;0)
Don’t get me wrong, I have a mountain of cool weddings and sweet family work to write about… 2017 was a good year for great clients and it was well paced which should have given me the time, right? Looking back, I’m realizing that there were some dark forces getting in my way… not just the daily run of the mill stuff, either. My husband faced down a major surgery in June… the results were excellent but the early parts of that ride were scary. Ongoing for a couple of years now, my only sister is caught in the rabbit hole that is dementia. We aren’t sure which kind it is yet but it is becoming increasingly evident that she is in trouble… a very bitter pill to swallow considering that she has always been confident, articulate and artistic. Losing those parts of her is heartbreaking and she lives too far away for me to help much. Probably the biggest daily obstacle, though, has been my inability to tear myself away from the headlines this year. The train wreck in our nation’s capitol has been and still is banging around inside my brain and it leaves me no choice but to stay informed and involved.
Life goes on. People are still getting married and having beautiful babies, lawns are still getting mowed and the moon rises and sets on her perfect schedule. I plan to blog several weddings in the next month or so… I don’t want any of you to think I have walked away from this work. It’s too much fun to be a part of it.
Say goodbye to 2017 and let’s put our best selves out there for the coming year, ok?
Two Dads at a wedding… it’s always cool to see how quickly new families start to blend. These dads pulled up their chairs at the edge of the living room and chatted about how good their kids were together. The ceremony and the family shots were done and they had some relaxed time before dinner was to be served.
The 16 guests were scattered in small conversations around the room but the Dads seemed to have the most to talk about and there was no shortage of smiles in their heart to heart.
Heart to heart abounds at Portland’s White House… it’s a very sweet place for intimate weddings. You should check it out if you have one coming up. ;0)
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts…”
Yesterday, I had a conversation with a prospective bride for next year. She said she was going to treat her wedding like a theatrical piece… if it were just about her and her man, they’d elope and call it good. She has decided to put on the “play” for their family and friends… to do it up right for them. To be fair, she teaches theatre to high schoolers so it’s how her mind works but, honestly, it’s a great way to look at a wedding. You write the script, design the set and hire some help for behind the scenes. The two of you also get to choose the players AND an appreciative audience… how cool is that?!
I love it that most of my clients are real and grounded people… they have a solid idea of what they want their wedding to be and the reviews are usually stellar by all accounts. ;0)
A thank you to Mr. Shakespeare for a marvelous quote, as always.
It was such a hot day, the cake was hiding in the basement of the Overlook House. Just before dinner, the newlyweds got curious about their cake. I overheard them asking the caterer if they could go see it. I followed them down the narrow stairs and watched them Ooh and Ahhh… anticipation on their smiling faces. As we turned to leave, I noticed two kiddie chairs in the corner. I asked them how they felt about having a picture in this oddly compelling space, figuring that if they hated it, they’d say so. They both lit up and the yes was very enthusiastic so I asked him to put the chairs in front of the wall.
Two minutes later, we went up to a wonderful meal knowing that a great cake was waiting in the wings.
Weddings can be planned to a high level but the best weddings roll with the punches. The summer weather will often change the course of a day. If you can relax and let the professionals do their best work, you will have a great day.
There are perfect days in Oregon and last Saturday was one of them. There are also perfect weddings and that was true of this one. Allie and Matt brought such confidence in their relationship to this wedding… it bodes very well for a long and happy marriage. It’s always a treat to see two people so well suited for each other.
Mt. Hood played hide and seek on this beautiful property above the river in Estacada and the nature of the place made it possible for everyone to relax and enjoy the day. What could be better than a party with all of the people you love in a place like this? ;0)
They had their first dance right before dinner and the afternoon flowed on from there… I have to give a great deal of credit to their planner, Angela Orr of Simply Elegant Occasions… she was everywhere she needed to be and because of that, there were no glitches. All in all, a very perfect day!
Over the years I have seen many new couples walk onto the dance floor for their first as a married couple… it is an expected and sometimes dreaded ritual at most weddings. The people who choose to skip it are generally just painfully shy. The majority have not had a chance to learn how to dance with their partners… that may come with time.
Drew extended his hand to Jac and she melted into him for one of the most private dances I have ever witnessed. They danced like no one was watching.