The very best day is the one when you and your best friend stand together in front of your people and promise to love and support each other for all time… that is all that matters on a wedding day.
Every now and then, a set of plans goes a little sideways… sometimes the venue isn’t open on time, sometimes the cake falls over or your very important grandfather is an hour late… sometimes a family member gets sick… shit happens. What then? Basically, you move gently around the problem and help your partner cope on this very special day. If it wasn’t already a team effort, it certainly becomes one at that point and even if your guests never notice, it’s on you to keep smiling on this best day.
Karri and Kevin came to their wedding day with the detailed plans all in place, nothing left unconsidered… and then some stuff went sideways. I’m pleased to say that, for the most part, no one noticed… at least that’s what it will look like in years to come. I can only compare it to some of my summer weddings where the temperature is so high that you think you will only ever remember the heat… oddly enough, in the pictures, it’s not what you notice and so you begin to forget that it was too hot.
Plan for the best day and roll with the day you are given… it’s good advice for any day.
We were just about finished with the portraits when I reminded Suzanne and Matthew that the party was just ahead. They had both been so focused on getting all of the responsible bits of the wedding day taken care of… so worried that something or someone might get missed. I watched as a visible relief washed over their happy faces. ;0)
The party is the reward you give yourself, the carrot at the end of the planning stick, if you will. The logistics of almost any wedding will drive most people a little crazy if they think about it too hard. When I arrived at the Ecotrust that afternoon, I encountered a stressed out Matthew in the parking lot. He was nervous about so many things. He improved remarkably when Suzanne swept into sight but it wasn’t until after the ceremony and a walk with her to do some portraits that I started to see him come back into balance. These two are made for each other and watching them come to life at their great party was a treat!
So do the homework and get a good night’s sleep. All that’s left is to get up on your wedding day, take the test and then party like you mean it!
Kudos to the planners from Soiree… always a professional team!
It was a very small audience but when the officiant Heather Rose launched into the Apache Wedding Blessing, all of us had to laugh!
The Apache Wedding Blessing:
“Now you will feel no rain, For each of you will be shelter to the other. Now you will feel no cold, For each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there is no more loneliness, For each of you will be companion to the other. Now you are two bodies, But there is one life before you. Go now to your dwelling place, To enter into the days of your togetherness. And may your days be good and long upon the earth.”
The poem is one I hear often… partly because it is a clear and positive message to two people joining their lives together and partly, I suppose, because it isn’t connected to any one religion, giving you a chance to speak a more universal sort of blessing.
If you look it up, it isn’t connected to any Native American culture either but it does have an interesting history. ;0)
Kate and Vlad braved an incredibly wet afternoon last Saturday… Rocky Butte is a sweet little park open to all of the elements so once it’s the decided location there is no turning back. These two took it in stride… a good sign for their marriage ahead, yes?
I got soaked and there will be some water spots to fix but I wouldn’t have missed it!
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts…”
Yesterday, I had a conversation with a prospective bride for next year. She said she was going to treat her wedding like a theatrical piece… if it were just about her and her man, they’d elope and call it good. She has decided to put on the “play” for their family and friends… to do it up right for them. To be fair, she teaches theatre to high schoolers so it’s how her mind works but, honestly, it’s a great way to look at a wedding. You write the script, design the set and hire some help for behind the scenes. The two of you also get to choose the players AND an appreciative audience… how cool is that?!
I love it that most of my clients are real and grounded people… they have a solid idea of what they want their wedding to be and the reviews are usually stellar by all accounts. ;0)
A thank you to Mr. Shakespeare for a marvelous quote, as always.