Made for each other barely begins to cover the relationship between these two! Heather and Derek had a courthouse wedding several years ago and they have two beautiful children to round out their family. I met Heather first and we did a few months of communicating before I met Derek. When he sat down at my table with her, I was reminded again that some couples are a perfect pair. The laughing in this picture is pretty much who they are.
Last Saturday, their larger families joined them for a wedding in the gorgeous backyard of a friend. Of course it was another blisteringly hot day and the yard had been tented for the crowd. The tent changed some of the photo planning we had done but we had a Plan B. ;0)
The ceremony was pretty early and the light was harsh so we saved the portraits for later in the day. During our planning meetings, I had asked them to look around the area for a spot for romantic pictures away from the crowd and in the later light… they had found a farm nearby and had asked permission to take some pictures there. The owners were very kind and said drive in and use anything you like. We spent about 20 minutes working our way around the old barn and the hay bales before we went back to the last of the party… a successful and happy day!
Instead of a Unity candle, consider a Sands Ceremony… you might be sweetly surprised by how personal it can be.
At it’s simplest, a sand ceremony involves a blending of two different-colored sands into a single container. The meaning is clear: The blending of two lovers, into an inseparable unit that is their marriage — the joining of their lives. Hard as it would be to separate out those grains of sand, that’s how difficult it is to separate these two people. Like the Unity candle, this Sands Ceremony can be done at any point in the marriage ceremony… it’s also not going to be too dependent on wind conditions. I have seen couples who are blending their families bring the children forward to add colored sands of their own and I have seen sands from around the globe incorporated into the mix… a way to pull your histories together.
The vessel you choose will dictate the shapes of the sand layers… I would advise trying a couple of containers ahead of time so that you have an idea what sort of artistic piece you might have after the wedding. You should also take into account that it will need to be transported carefully so that the layers stay distinct… this is not something to throw into a purse and take to the reception. ;0)
Michelle and Heather will have this reminder for many years to come.
Again, anything that makes your wedding day more personal is a good thing.
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Portland’s Courthouse is right downtown in the middle of some of our most interesting architecture and it is at it’s prettiest in the fall. Last Friday, on Halloween, I met with Michelle and Heather at one of the parks nearby. Joined by about a dozen family members, we spent some time taking care of family shots in the fading light. Then the three of us took a photo sort of stroll around the block for some personal portraits… the two of them giggling and smiling the entire time. By the time we got back to the courthouse, it was time to go through the security dance and head upstairs to wait for the judge. Nerves were starting to show and these two propped each other up… thankfully the judge was very kind and the wait was pretty short. I saw a lot of love in that courtroom… these two were well married.
I know a lot of people believe that a courthouse wedding isn’t as good somehow but that’s just not the case. These two young women had decided early on that the whole wedding circus wasn’t that big a deal to them. The three hours I spent with them proved to be a very sweet day indeed. ;0)
Big wedding, little wedding… let’s talk about it, ok?